Anna Chaplain Gaye Hailstone got in touch with the national team recently with this upsetting news from her community, and yet in all the challenges, Gaye was aware of God’s light and peace with her and the residents she cares so deeply about. Here’s her reflection on last week’s visit:
‘Doesn't God work in mysterious ways? I have spent many sleepless nights and waking hours thinking how I might bring some peace and support to the old folk I have grown to love over the last few years. Suddenly they were told that within a few weeks they will be re-homed – the owners have not consulted staff, residents or families and this came as a complete shock to everyone. How on earth do I bring some hope and positivity into such a bleak situation?
I planned appropriate Bible verses, time for people to open up if they wanted about their feelings and fears, some music, prayers, etc. Then today, when I arrived at the home with my Anna Friend Collette, I realised with absolute horror that I had left all my carefully planned words and prayers on my desk at home. For a minute I felt blind panic and then such a feeling of calm came over me and I knew that the Holy Spirit was there beside me and would guide me – I knew I wouldn’t offend, cause even more concern or fear and that when the prayer time was over all would be well.
And of course, that was how it was – words just came to me and somehow, I found the right words to respond to the heartbreaking cries for help and I knew I was being led. After about an hour I felt it was time to bring it all to a positive close with a couple of hymns and prayers, including the Lord’s Prayer which they all know so well. One 98 year old lady actually said she felt better, and it had really helped her to remember that God was with her and taking care of her during this difficult time. We got smiles rather than tears when we left, and we are going back next week with our wonderful new rector.
Families are being asked to give their permission for me to be told which home their loved one is moving to, and I shall make contact and visit them to ensure there is some continuity of familiar things. It will be wonderful if they move to a community where there is an Anna Chaplain.
There may be other Annas who have also gone through this awful process and if anyone has any suggestions of “what next” please let get in touch.’
Debbie concludes:
‘We are aware that this is not an isolated experience: some care homes are closing down for financial and other reasons, which is deeply distressing for the residents, families and staff involved. If you have had a similar experience as an Anna Chaplain or pastoral care visitor and have found ways to offer support, please get in touch with us and we will connect you to Gaye.’
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